Do you ever get tired of waiting for things to change? The economy, a difficult manager at work, an overdramatic friend, a situation blocking your path. These have all, at one time or another, made it to the top of my “Would You Please Just Hurry Up and Change” list. But my current number one offender is … myself. I really do want to change the world, and I really do think it’s possible, but if it is dependent upon ME changing – well there’s going to be a problem.
Oh, it’s easy to change the things I do: recycle, volunteer, give more to charity. But changing the way I think, which pretty much means changing who I am? That’s when my defense mechanisms go up. My first inclination is to throw a fit and start screaming, “Why should I have to change? What’s wrong with me being this way?” This reaction in itself reveals to me the importance of the change – moving from immaturity to maturity. My second inclination is to dig my heels in and say, “I’m tired of having to be the one who has to change, why can’t they/it be the one to change this time?” This petulant reaction triggers a question: what if the person or circumstance NEVER changes? Am I willing to stay stuck, just to make a point? Are you? …
… Pursuing excellence in our lives pretty much means that changing ourselves is a given. Changing the ordinary into extraordinary, changing average into greatness, changing the mediocre into superb, changing ourselves into the most excellent version of ourselves. That actually sounds pretty good to me. So what are we waiting for?
Last week I wrote, “I believe that God has created every human being with individual gifts, talents, skills, abilities, tastes, desires, interests, affinities – things that bring us satisfaction and make us feel alive.” For most of us, these things are easy to list about ourselves:
- “I’m good with numbers”
- “I love to paint”
- “Modern contemporary furniture is to die for”
- “I want a waterfront home”
- “Everyone loves my cinnamon rolls”
- “I couldn’t live anywhere but New York City.”
But for some of us, we’ve lost our way. The cares and concerns of life have become so tightly packed down around us, we can’t think past what is currently happening in us and to us. We feel stuck. We feel like we’ve missed it. We feel like we blew it. If you feel this way, I want to give you permission to take five minutes out of your schedule to do the following:
- Say this sentence to yourself: “I want something more. I need something more.”
- Remember what used to bring you satisfaction and made you feel alive and write them down.
- Say this sentence to yourself: “It’s okay to want and need something more. It’s okay to want to feel satisfied and alive.”
Next week when you visit again, bring your list with you and we’ll take a closer look.