Whether you are just discovering your purpose or have been on this journey for a while, you know that it’s not always easy or comfortable. You can’t always expect immediate results.
You may have had a smoother transition to something in the past, or you may see someone else who seems to have it easier than you. It can be frustrating when you have a picture of what you want but it’s not coming together in real life.
Your purpose does not have to be big or perfect coming out of the gate – it’s not intended to. We are pursuing our purpose – which means “to follow, continue, or proceed along.” Real progress takes time, so you need to learn to apply yourself consistently and patiently.
You do not create your purpose out of nothing. It’s not just an idea out of the blue. Rather you take what is already within you and stir it up.
It’s like a fire on the beach. People build campfires near the dunes and when it finally burns out and they’re ready to leave, they bury the remains in sand. You can find where the fire was because the sand covering the place is warm. Then you can dig down to the embers and stir them up and create another fire.
So it is with your purpose – it’s burning deep within you and what you need to do is find where it is, dig down, and stir it up. It takes time and patience. Fires and purposes need to be stirred up and built gradually in order to Burn Bright.
“A fortunate few cherish that flame, nurture it, hold it as a torch to light their way.”
Don’t ever settle for ordinary, average, unexceptional. I’m not talking about the scale, quantity, or fame of your achievement, but rather in the quality and influence of your purpose. Investing in people, building your confidence by stepping out of your comfort zone, and being bold will drive you forward and bring increase.
The value of your purpose is neither in its size nor in the acknowledgement of others. Feeding a family in your neighborhood, feeding the homeless downtown, feeding millions in Africa – which has more value? Whichever one is done with passion and out of compassion. Whichever one challenges you to step outside of yourself. Whichever one is done with excellence. And no one can really know this except you. How many you reach pales in comparison to the quality of your reach.
Even when you’re feeling small, or others think of you as small, don’t settle for mediocre. Taking the easy route will always leave you feeling less than confident in what you have to offer and keep you from moving onward and upward in your purpose.
In order to fully pursue the purpose God has placed on our lives, we are looking at how to avoid self-defeating behaviors. Each week for six weeks we’re looking at one of the following:
To get out of you own way, you need to remember…
1. …your identity
2. …what you are doing
3. …your purpose
4. …the people
5. …to be strategic
6. …the outcome
REMEMBER THE PEOPLE
Your purpose in life is never all about you. While you discover your purpose by considering your own abilities, passions, and desires, gratifying those traits is not what it’s all about.
Focusing only on you – what you are doing and what will benefit you – may be one of the reasons you find yourself frozen and unable to move forward.
A business or organization may focus their mission statement on marketing a product, but they cannot lose sight of their customer. Your purpose – whether written on paper or on your heart – cannot lose sight of those who will benefit from your commitment to your purpose.
When you take what you are doing out of the realm of self-fulfillment and consider the influence/support/service/relief/comfort you provide others through it, you reshape the nature of your approach and your expectations.
Thinking about the needs of those you impact can often give you the kick you need to lift yourself out of those self-sabotaging behaviors of procrastination, lack of focus, perfectionism, fear, etc.
Next week: REMEMBERING TO BE STRATEGIC